Grief and Loss – Tell the Truth In Love on Becoming Human Again

The grief and loss over the death of my husband left me in some kind of way. I am going to tell the truth in love, but the truth none the less. Becoming human again was something that seemed and was so far away from me, I tell you! Finding out what happened to him, msccruisesbooking was worse than the shock I felt as a little girl sitting there in front of the TV and watching Walter Cronkite drop his microphone as he relayed the news that President Kennedy had died from being shot in the head! And being so young and had never experienced such a trauma as that, could only scream and cry there on the floor in front of that Black and White TV!

“The network coverage of the assassination and funeral of John F. Kennedy warrants its reputation as the most moving and historic passage in broadcasting history. On Friday 22 November 1963, cruisebookonline news bulletins reporting rifle shots during the president’s motorcade in Dallas, Texas, broke into normal programming.” – Internet.

I was told of my husband’s impending death on the phone, and my legs became like rubber instantly my whole body began to tremble. I felt faint, but didn’t and how I walked to where he was, movie2uhd I do not know.

And as I marvel here at the workings of the body even under extreme stress, it confirms what it says in Psalm 139:14 – I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvelous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.

When you experience a major stressor in your life; saintgenieswholesale whether it be the stressor of having to take an exam, or experiencing the traumatic death of loved ones, that stress response will be activated. And before you ask, as that young little girl, I loved President Kennedy. I could hear my mom who never missed the 6:00 PM News on Channel 12; and other elders speak of him. Also, I remember this speech or at least that part of it; “Ask not what your country can do for you, appmee but what you can do for your country!”

And so when a stressor is captured by the mind, the brain, in short and by definition, experiences a process called, “acute stress disorder.” Acute Stress Disorder is the result of a traumatic event in which the person experiences or witnesses an event that causes the victim/witness to experience extreme, allthingschildcare disturbing or unexpected fear, stress or pain, that involves or threatens serious injury, perceived serious injury or death to one’s self or someone else. – Wikipedia.

Acute stress reaction or shock as we know it is a psychological and physiological condition in response to a terrifying or traumatic event. The onset of a stress response is associated with specific physiological actions caused by the sympathetic nervous system, animeyoko both directly and indirectly through the release of adrenaline and noradrenaline from the adrenals. These are the hormones that give you the strength and energy to run; or to lift a car up off of your child. A hormone then is a chemical substance, formed in one organ or part of the body and carried in the blood to another organ or part where they exert functional effects; depending on the specificity of their effects, hormones can alter the functional activity, and sometimes the structure, of just one organ or tissue or various numbers of them.These powerful hormones facilitate immediate physical reactions by triggering increases in heart rate and breathing, constricting blood vessels. You will/can fight or run. This is the fight or flight response. You have heard people when they wonder how in the world did thus and so occur? These hormones are responsible for what seems as super human strength, when a person could not otherwise do whatever it was they just did. Whether it be running up a flight of stairs in record time or picking up a car, or getting to the other side of town in record speed! In technical terms, an abundance of catecholamines at neuroreceptor sites facilitates reliance on spontaneous or intuitive behaviors often related to combat or escape.

And it can and does happen continuously over and over again when a stimulus is perceived as a threat, a more intense and prolonged discharge of the locus ceruleus activates the sympathetic division of the autonomic nervous system; which is research done by Thase & Howland in 1995. See why we need to tell the truth with love!!! Grief and loss evoke the response of fear, but oh contraire with love! Love on the other hand, and your brain which senses and feels the love releases hormones such as dopamine, adrenaline, norepinephrine, oxytocin, the feel-good hormones, which have the power to reduce stress, and lower blood pressure, according to research from the University of North Carolina. High stress and anxiety are linked to high blood pressure, increased heart rate, and other factors that can contribute to heart disease, and weight gain.

We have enough in our everyday lives, so let us love a little more and give our bodies some rest.

We, all of us as a people historically will not go for help. I want to stress that here. Get some help! Look at what you are doing to your body! Our organs were not meant to have to work that fast and hard all of the time. And eventually if you do not give your kidneys a rest, you will deplete them of their cortisol. Cortisol is a steroid hormone, more specifically a glucocortoid, produced by in the adrenal gland. It is released in response to stress and a low level of blood glucocorticoids. Its primary functions are to increase blood sugar through gluconeogenesis; suppress the immune system; and aid in fat, protein and carbohydrate metabolism. And to speak English, get you the strength you need for your body to run from that bear!!!!!

And let’s consider what happens to us if we are constantly in a state of stress and fear. Ever heard of diabetes, anybody possibly wondering or maybe connecting a few dots as to where it comes from? Heard of high blood pressure? Yes. And heart disease. Yes, a possible cause, from it having to beat so fast under the effects of the adrenalin and cortisol released in response to the stress. And now dialysis from having worked your kidneys so hard. Now I can say from studying about these facts, there may be a correlation, but you will need to be seen and diagnosed by your physician. And maybe find help to relax through the treatment modality of your choice such as: Aromatherapy, Hypnotherapy, TimeLine Therapy: Optimum Focus Ionic Foot Bath; to slow those kidneys down. Yes I too am a STOIC, (firmly resisting the response to pain or distress) and keep to myself when I have troubles. Be that as it is, the time to acknowledge when go for some help will come.

I will say here that it did for me. Not intentionally sought out, factualfacts but as an aside of releasing fear and anger and sadness in my own refresher class of NLP – NeuroLinguistic Programming by the Tad James Company. This time, I am telling what happened in Vegas!!!!!

Yes, we will all have to go through the processes of Grief and Loss, and hopefully ok. And as I know that music can convey a message better than anything else, and if some emotions have been stirred up here from the earlier part of this post, perhaps a video. like that of the Mighty Clouds of Joy; singing “I’ve Been In the Storm Too Long may help!

 

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